It is a given fact that as long as you have a man, you automatically became either a side chick or main chick. In most cases, you tend to think that you are the primary chick until you find it out that you are otherwise or your man decides to tell you about it.
In most instances, the side chick is fully aware of her position in that affair. The girlfriend who is the main chick has little knowledge and some time is ultimately not aware that her man has a side chick. However, both want to be the main chick but in the end, there has to be one of them playing the role of a side chick, and that depends on the choice the man makes. Some women know that they are the side chick but enjoy playing their role. Sounds funny, right?. Want to know your position? Here are some traits you should observe.
15. COMPLEXITY VS UNFUSINESS
When a side chick is aware of her position, she will do all that it takes to retain her position. Mostly you will find the side chicks with sophisticated hairstyle, fissionable clothing, those killer shoes, and will apply makeup to impress at first glance. On the other hand, girlfriends who are the main chick will tend to appear ‘normal.’ They don’t exaggerate their looks, be it their dressing and general appearance. They appear ‘comfortable’ and simplicity is one of their characters. It should, however, be noted that men sometimes prefer the side chick just for public appearance. If your man likes that ‘killer look’ you better act like a side chick.
14. LOVE BECOMES ONE SIDED
When you realize that your man can not put up with small issues, he is at your neck and doesn’t care about you, and then you ought to read between the lines. A side chick who knows her position knows it that she is responsible for her feelings. The man doesn’t care about her at all. However, the man can do anything to keep his girlfriend. If your man never gives an ear whenever you are complaining about weighty issues, undoubtedly you could be his side chick.
13. NORMAL INTRODUCTIONS TO FEW PEOPLE
As much as your man ‘spoils’ you with gifts, dinners and other intimacy that makes relationship relevant, pay attention to how he introduces you to those that matter to him. A man will formally introduce his girlfriend to business partners, family members, friends, workmates all to show he cares about you. However, when it comes to side chick, he only introduces them to a few of his friends who put up with that kind of life, who also knows that you are a side chick and help conceal that fact. Hope you will observe your man’s intros.
12.OBSERVE THE SOCIAL MEDIA
A man is always proud of his girlfriend at all times. If you are his girlfriend, you will find your pictures on his social media as his profile. He will introduce her publicly for all to know that he has someone that he treasures. On the other hand, the side chick will only appear in group photos on his timeline, and it’s only when he chooses to post it. The side chick will keep liking all his photos just to remain relevant.
11. DOES HE ENJOY TAKING PHOTOS WITH YOU?
A relationship is always groomed with memories. One of the ways to make moments memorable is through taking photos. Take a look at his face when taking a picture, how does it appear? Is he happy like really enjoying your company? Are there photos of you on his device? Well, for a side chick he will always pretend and force a smile, or even pretend he is photophobic because he wants to leave no evidence behind. He is however very fond of his girlfriend and will also take the photos of the girlfriend without her noticing. He has a file of memories with her girlfriend. Now you know.
10. IS IT PUBLIC YET?
Your man will always introduce you to his associates anytime anywhere you meet. Does he mention or make it known to them that you are dating. Side chick who knows her position will be introduced as ‘an old friend.’ Do his colleagues always ask who you are yet you have been dating for months when you meet out for dinner? If so, consider revisiting your position in that relationship.
9. ARE YOU EMOTIONALLY ATTACHED
In case of a situation that threatens your relationship, how does he react? When he wrongs, does he apologize for hurting you? Is he emotionally attached to you? Side chick especially those who are not aware find it hard because their men will not care about their feelings. This is so because he only needs you as a plan B, to comfort him when his girlfriend is angry with him. Next time check his response when you tell him you want a breakup, and he is like ‘me too.’ Indeed, you are his side chick.
8. SAME MEETING PLACE!
The meeting place with your man tells a lot about him. A man will always want to ‘play safe’ while with his side chick. That is why he will choose a specific meeting place to keep you off from his friends or people that might give his girlfriend a clue. Does he grant you the freedom to spend as much time as you wish in his place? For a side chick, he will create excuses and insist that you have to leave no matter how late it is in the night because he fears that the girlfriend who has the keys might pop up anytime.
7.CONVERSATION ON PHONE CAN TELL
A lot can be told from his phone calls. He will most of the time excuse himself to pick a ‘strange’ call when you are together. At times he will pretend not to know you and will ask ‘who is it’ when he is with the girlfriend. He will also cut you short by suggesting that he will call you sometimes later for he is busy. All this will happen for you when you are his side chick and will always try by all means to conceal this from the main chick. When you see any of the above, its time to begin investigations.
6. DOES HE TOLERATE YOU ACTING LIKE THE BOSS?
Most of the time side chicks are given minimal attention and opportunity. The man will not at any time put up with ‘spoiled’ kind of a side chick. However, those that know their role as side chick will always play it well and wait for the next time. They are satisfied with the little time they spend with the man. The man, however, has no problem when the main chick acts like the boss.
5. VOICEMAIL ALL THE TIME!
He will try to play safe by diverting all your calls to voicemail. This is because he wants to keep you safe. There will always be an explanation for that from him though it only leads to another question, ‘why voicemail all the time?’ If such is happening to you its time, you call it off. Many men hide the side chick by replacing their names with objects and stores them on the phone such that no one gets it. It has worked for some.
4. NO FEELINGS ATTACHED
Even though all women get jealous, it appears to be a rule that side chick should pretend not to be. This is so since the man has no feelings towards the side chick. It forces the side chick to live in the pretense that she is not hurt. It was evident that if you act out of feelings, the man will just leave without a word. You have to put up with little attention. If you are in such a relationship, then you are the side chick.
3. ANY FUTURE PLANS YET?
A man will always discuss the future with his girlfriend. They plan for their next meeting place and time. He will be comfortable discussing their future. However, for the side chick, the man will always appear not to be confident about there next meeting place or even keep off from discussing the future. He will in most cases act only after pressurizing him. Well, that is a relationship when you are a side chick.
2. CHECK YOUR NAME IN SAVED CONTACTS
In an attempt to conceal identity from the obvious, he will save a side chick as pets, or names of objects and to some extent male names. For instance, if your name is Daniela he will save it as Daniel. He will, however, save the girlfriend name as love, honey, darling, sweetie you name them.
DOES HE BOTHER TO TELL YOU OF HIS WHEREABOUTS?
He will in most cases tell the girlfriend where he is because he feels that she ought to know. He frequently updates her on how he is doing. On the contrast, he will go missing without a word or explanation. He only gives an excuse that ‘I didn’t want to bother you’ or ‘ I needed to be alone.’ When you observe such, then you are in simple terms his side chick.