When you reach a point where you are more than stable in your life, physically, emotionally, mentally and financially, the quest to look for a partner you can share this stability with starts. This usually happens to people in their early thirties and if you are lucky enough in your late 20s. There is always lingering doubt and hesitation though. How can you be so sure that this won’t just effect your whole existence in a negative way? How can you be so sure that the person in question will share your stability or just take it away? So many questions but so little time. Then again there is a solution to every problem.
Here are 10 definite qualities that can help you find the perfect partner to spend your life with:
10. Similar living habits:
In order to find the perfect person to spend your life, love isn’t the only important thing that one needs to take into account, but the way the other person lives as well. The perfect marriage entails not only the need for a connection through emotion but a physical connection that is stemmed from a comfortable environment. Both of you are likely to feel at ease on your own grounds and what better way to live if you both have similar grounds in the first place?
9. Room for a healthy debate:
Asking for a marriage where there are no fights or arguments is asking a bit too much from the universe. Every relationship is entitled to its good and bad which includes its fair share of arguments between the couple. Heated arguments aren’t always a bad thing. They might just help you broaden your mind and look at a new perspective. Not to mention they have the ability to make your life exciting in a way. Finding a person who is likely to disagree with a lot of things you say doesn’t cross them off the list as a potential suitor but might just make them climb to the top of the list of those.
8. The not so selfish loving:
There is giving and taking in every relationship. The relationships that just involve giving from one end and taking from another are toxic ones you need to do yourself a favor and stay away from. Find a person who not only wants to be loved but wants to love as well. A person who doesn’t just want to take but wants to give as well. Someone who in unadulterated in giving affection and not shy in taking them.
7. Fan and foe:
He or she should be your number one fan and your number one enemy. Figuratively speaking. The right life partner will not only cheer you on but challenge you in many aspects of life because really who doesn’t love a good challenge? Imagine getting those constantly by someone you can possibly spend your life with. All in good sport though. If you find someone who has the ability to cheer you on as well as challenge you to do greater and better things with or without them there is a high possibility he or she is the perfect one for you.
6. You didn’t look just met:
How many times has that happened to you that you kept looking for something particular and it was right in front of you but you never noticed that it was there, but when you didn’t look for it you found it? Like the keys of your car for example. Looking for your perfect partner shouldn’t be a planned search but a spontaneous one. Let destiny take its course because we all know planned searches don’t always work out that well. Don’t take age into account, don’t rush into a decision to marry someone because you feel like you are running out of time. This is a decision that is going to affect you for a lifetime so give it time and see where it goes.
5. No boundaries:
Everyone has some type of wall built around themselves. Emotional walls, physical walls and even mental walls. The perfect life partner is someone who lets you through these walls, slowly but surely. This works both ways. If you let them touch the core of your being with your existence they are likely to as well. There are no boundaries that are between you both otherwise all you would do your whole life is scavenging against walls and is that what you want your marriage to be about?
4. First person you would call:
A marriage is about trust and reliance. If you have met a person you can call when you are having a bad day or are in some big or little trouble, if you have met a person that you want to call not only when you receive bad news but good news as well then there is 50 in a 100 chance that he or she is the perfect person for you.
3. Throws you up instead of pushing you down:
We have all seen good marriages and bad ones. It is up to us to recognize what a good marriage entails and what a bad one does. A good marriage is a marriage based on compromise, love, acceptance and trust. It is not only about just living together but boosting your partner’s confidence in areas of life they really need that push to achieve their dreams or at least jump on the pathway of them. A partner that doesn’t belittle your dreams or accomplishments instead showers you with encouragement to work on it is definitely the person you should settle for.
2. Mutual understandings:
Opposites attract. Who doesn’t know that saying? Its cliché and it is true but has anyone ever determined to what extent? It is understandable if you are interested in someone who likes all the different shows as you, different food and even different hobbies but what about different perspective and their mindfulness of situations or things? There is a certain point you both need to meet at in order for you to be able to understand each other. If you both have a mutual understanding of things that calls for an unseen agreement you both can work your way with through life on a very content ground henceforth.
1. Being able to solve your problems:
We don’t know about you but our mother whenever we were in trouble at school used to shout at us as to why we got in trouble in the first place instead of actually helping us get out of it. This is just an example of how your relationship with the right person shouldn’t be. He or she should be someone you are able to talk to about anything and everything. Previously we mentioned it should be the first person you call when you are in trouble but what happens afterwards? A little berating never hurt anyone but not finding a solution probably does. Instead of pointing out your mistakes the right person would help you look for a good solution to overcome the hurdles that are flinging themselves in your way.